She was from California, my roommate in college. Drop dead gorgeous and as sweet as could be. Probably would’ve been a bit easier for me if she was just snotty and mean. Ha. I spent my whole freshman year being asked if she was single and if she’d go on a date with almost every guy on campus. I’m just gonna say it, it wasn’t easy on my ego. I never felt like I was good enough, pretty enough, sweet enough. I measured myself up to her on a daily basis. I’m eating more than her, I’m laughing too loud, I talk too much, I’m not studying as much. I definitely started losing my marbles but more than that, I was losing my own value and self identity. Somehow as the year went on, I fell into the trap of comparison and it wasn’t good. It didn’t help that the freshman 15 or more like 20 for me, happened within the first 3 month. Oops.
The world we are living in is just crazy. We are faced with decisions that will really effect us and our families. Can I tell you something though? There’s no right or wrong and there should be no comparison or judgement towards those who choose opposite of you or me. We’ve gotta go back to our core values within ourselves. That is enough. You are enough. When I came back my sophomore year, I held my head high in confidence. I was tired of allowing others to control what I felt or thought. In all honesty, our value and ultimate identity is founded in our Jesus. I know you’ve heard it a thousand times but if you really let it sink in, the pressure of living up to someone or something disappears. It’s so easy to let those negative voices come into our heads and the next thing you know, we are believing what they say. Romans 8:37-”No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” CONQUERORS!!! I mean, doesn’t that make you want to pull up your big girl pants and be like, ‘shove it world!’ Ok, maybe just me but you can too! Lock yourself into the thinking of who ultimately matters and defines you. It’s not the peeps on Facebook or Instagram, it’s not your neighbor, it’s not your friends, it’s the one true ticket to happy, our super great Big Daddy!
What comparison do you need to let go of? Is there an area in your life that floods your mind in a negative way? You have the strength of Jesus Christ to defeat those lies and tell them who’s boss. You are a conqueror!
“We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do.”