Walls. Easy to put up and difficult to knock down. Am I right? I have one or two…..okay maybe like 1500 BUT I recognize I have a problem. Isn’t that the first step? Ha. We get burned, hurt, brushed aside, downgraded, defeated and with each one a wall goes up. For a long period of time, a wall went up with Christians for me. Okay maybe just people in general. I’ve touched on this a few times. In my deepest pain, the ones who ran the fastest were Christians. Those closest to my core threw me for a loop when truth was spoken about the sexual abuse, and they were Christian. I grew up in a Christian home, how can pain strike so heavy if that were the case. Wall after wall after wall came up till I got to a point where I questioned any and every relationship. In the end though, the walls hurt us. We block any healing or healthy relationships from coming into our lives. We think we are protecting ourselves when in the long run we are slowly pushing everyone out.
These walls we built start to seep into our everyday lives. Walls that started only with a simple brick have now manifested into a full blown house. The core of the issue is trust and I so totally get it. Once it’s broken in any capacity, it’s flip’n difficult to allow back in yet at some point we’ve gotta overcome that fear with courage. The courage to allow others in. The courage to see that others are human too. We’ve gotta let go of judgement towards others and honestly let go of judgement towards ourselves in order for each brick to slowly get knocked down. Now, there’s no problem in having boundaries. Many times they are needed. I’m not telling you to go and run the streets naked, becoming friends with every person you meet. I mean, if you do, each to his own but be careful…..haha. What I’m saying is that it’s okay to be on your guard and protect your heart. That’s where prayer comes in. That’s where you’ve gotta trust that Jesus has your back.
I always fall to peace. In John 14:27 it says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” Walls do not equal peace. Walls equal anxiety, fear, sadness, pain, things that aren’t from Jesus. As we begin to tear each brick down, we begin to allow the peace of Jesus to enter into our lives. I quickly needed to let go of my need to put a wall up towards Christians, towards people in general. I mean, I was one so that was an issue, but more importantly, it was hurting any opportunity I had to build new relationships. No one could get in. I wouldn’t let them. I still struggle with it today, I think we all do. It’s natural to protect ourselves but in the end, we need to continue to throw grace our way while hammering down one brick at a time.
“Anyone can try but the only person who can really take those walls down, is the one who put them up.”