1 Peter 3:8
“Finally, all of you be like-minded, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, compassionate toward each other, and humble in spirit.”
How many times are we like, if you’d just do what I say and listen to me, you will be a much better person. Hahaha. In the end, truth is, we can’t change people. It’s hard for us to grasp how people do things or say things and we want to be like, dude, let’s rework this and life will be a breeze. Will it, though? Everyone loves and lives differently because we’ve all got a story. We can’t assume that how we handle and do things is totally right either.
I’ve dealt with this on so many levels on both ends. One end, back in the day, people always wanted to fix me. Telling me how to handle my pain or how to feel happier, and the list goes on. I think one of the epic times was when Quinn was first diagnosed with Autism and what people say to you when they don’t know is mind blowing. I’d try and take him out in public or to the store but once things got overwhelming, he would lose it. Instead of compassion, I had one women be like, you really should just leave. Well crap, let me just tell you ,women, how you should maybe change your attitude and oh so many other things. That’s totally where I was at and honestly, I left a mess. BUT, once I settled down, I realized, I’m allowing this woman, who has no clue what’s going on and has her own issues, to dictate my emotions. I can’t change her or anyone else who looks at me like I’m a horrible mother or thinks I don’t know what I’m doing. I mean, come on, we’ve all been there. With screaming children, or you just did something that was off the wall, people react and you want to punch them in the face….ha! Maybe it’s just me! On the other end of this, we realize we also want to fix people. It’s not just their issue but ours too. That’s where we have to step back and be like, I don’t get it, I don’t understand it or you, but I’m going to release the negative that is sitting on me and move forward. It doesn’t do us any good to try and fix it or try to even understand it. Instead, as hard as it is for me to write this cause I’m in situations like this right now, we need to use compassion.
In the end, God is in control and we aren’t. In the end, God needs to work on others and not us. It’s not our job, as much as us controlling people want it to be. The quicker we release and give those people to Jesus, the quicker we get back to what really matters in life. We can’t control how people react, live life, treat people etc…..we just can’t. We can try all day long but in the end, we don’t know their pain, their story. There’s always more to the actions. Look at your own life, we all do it. We all hide behind what’s not real some days so we need to remember that others do to.
“Today, be the reason someone feels loved.”