Do you find yourself in a constant war? Like, always fighting for something or against something or maybe just with your children ha! I was pondering this lately. Do you ever think maybe we need to stop fighting against things and start fighting FOR things. I notice myself fighting to be accepted in some situations, or fighting to win in a situation, or fighting to get my point across, or fighting to please everyone, the list can go on for days. What if we started fighting for good? Like, what if we started fighting for our passions, our dreams? Maybe we just leave the little nonsense fighting for someone else and we focus on fighting for something that is worth it.
I was really messed up when it came to understand what relationships were supposed to look like. I’ll be honest, I didn’t know real love until my husband game into play. Being sexually abused when I was young just put the wrong message in my head. I assumed you had to do what they wanted or there was this power they had and I needed to just come under it in order to be loved. It got me in some nasty relationships and then they would walk away in the end. I remember fighting for them, calling them, pleading with them, telling them I’d do whatever if they just came back. I couldn’t grasp I was constantly wanting to fill the void with the messed up love I thought I needed. I came to a place, as the years went on and healing continued, that I was like, what am I doing? I’m fighting to get abused again over and over. Why? I think we get tangled up in what we assume will be good for us. I got tangled up in what I’ve always known. Sometimes we end up fighting for things that really in the end, will only leave us feeling worse than when we started. So instead I started to fight for me. I started to fight for my healing, my future, the love I wanted, the love I deserved.
It’s time for us to start fighting for truth, healing, freedom, our future, the great things that God has in store for us instead of fighting the war that darkness wants us to constantly rally around. It’s a matter of shifting your eyes to what you are focusing on. Is your focus on Him, the truth that says, “Jesus spoke to the people again, saying, ‘I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me won’t walk in darkness but will have the light of life.” John 8:12. or is your focus on winning a war alone, making sure your point gets across, trying to fit in? We fight for the light and with the light. In that, we can’t lose. Abuse can’t touch me anymore because I’m choosing, each day, to fight for the good around me, to take my gloves off and walk away when faced with things that aren’t lighting up my path. You can too.
“We fight too many battles that don’t matter. If that battle is not between you and your destiny, then it’s a distraction. You have to learn to let things go.”