Hebrews 12:2
“(Looking away from all that will distract us) focusing our eyes on Jesus, who is the Author and Perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, disregarding the shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
So, big shocker, but I’m here to tell you that you can’t change people! I know, you’re shocked but here’s what’s funny, we still try and do it. First of all, we think that everyone should be like us. I mean, come on, totally makes sense. Second, we assume they can see it or know how to change when maybe they honestly can’t.
It’s been about a 1 ½ since I’ve spoken my truth about being sexually abused as a child. All in all, the support is off the charts. A few were on this journey with me and already knew and a few weren’t surprised because they’ve seen me or knew of the more difficult path I’ve walked throughout life. There are one or two that have, in the past, consumed my inner being. Their reaction or where they are at now is, let’s just say, different. I couldn’t grasp some of the words, or thoughts, or action that came from them and I took it to heart. BUT I’m here to tell you that I’m slowly releasing them. When their names come up now, I don’t immediately have my heart race or want to go hide in a corner. I now know that I can’t change or fix them. It’s not my job. It’s Gods. This is my story and this is my truth AND this is MY HEALING. Guess what, it’s yours too.
You have the choice to decide if you are going to allow those around you, that may not be in your corner, to control you or just ‘be’. You have a story. You have a healing journey that you are on and you’ve gotta realize that many, many aren’t gonna understand or see it through your eyes. They don’t have too. That was difficult for me to grasp. Shouldn’t they understand what I went through? Shouldn’t they see how I need to move forward and heal? Unfortunately no, they don’t. We can’t expect them too either. God puts all of us on our own journey with Him, first and foremost. Those around us are also on their own journey. It’s not our job to get them to see that ours is better, or harder, or different. We’ve gotta stay on our path, eyes fixed on Jesus. I’ve gotten to a place where I’m asking myself, is it worth it? Is it really worth all my beautiful, God-given energy to try to fix them or get them to see it? Nope. Negative. Nada. It doesn’t help me move forward and it won’t help you either.
Today, you are gonna release one or two or maybe a handful of people that you are holding onto. Those who you are holding out hope for that have hurt you, or don’t understand you, or plain out suck. You can’t fix them, it’s too much and too big. That’s why we’ve got a great big Daddy who takes those jobs over. Let him have it. Allow yourself the freedom to move forward.
“Sometimes you have to let go of people. Not because you don’t care, but because your peace is more important.”
Wounded to Warrior 