“Do not judge and criticize and condemn, so that you will not be judged. For just as you judge others, so will you be judged; and in accordance with your standard of measure, judgement will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice and acknowledge the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me get the speck out of your eye,’ when there is a log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first get the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.’
SNAP! That’s what I say to this verse. Like, Word!!!! I could go off on a crazy tangent with this topic so I’ll try to reel it in as much as possible or maybe not, ha.
Funny story, my daughter was in class the other day and a girl sitting next to her must have known we love Jesus and was like, ‘Your Jesus-loving mom probably wears like pink dresses and her hair like all in a bun.’ McKenna is like, actually, my mom has pink hair and tattoos! Peace out!
Why, why are we so judgmental? Why are we so quick to point flaws and ugly pieces of people? Please know, I’m totally asking myself these questions too. I am so guilty of this yet I’m desperately trying to step back and be more aware. It kills the soul of not only the other person but it poisons us too. I’m not your typical looking mom so my kids notice when other moms look at me a little like, hmmmm, what’s this girl all about. I’ve come to a place where I’m like, dude, I’ve got a Jesus story behind it all so if you want to ask, you better sit down for a while! For my kids, they get upset. Especially because the oldest ones know my story.
Years ago, when we would try and go out with Quinn, my oldest on the spectrum, he never, like ever, did well. Everything was over stimulating for him and his frustration level went from 1 to 100 in a matter of seconds. The looks we would get from people killed my momma heart. Made me feel like I didn’t know what the hell I was doing, which I already felt. I was really close to getting Quinn one of those shirts that said, ‘I have autism, what’s your problem!’
I say these things because we’ve all been on the other side of judgement. We have ALL felt the sting from it. It paralyses you. Yet it’s so easy…..SO EASY to sit back and be like, look at her hair…… look at her kids…… are they gay?…… are they smoking?….. I so wouldn’t do it that way. THAT IS NOT THE LOVE OF JESUS!!!!!! Sure, there are things in this world that He’s not the biggest fan of BUT it is not our place to decide. Our place is to LOVE….the end.
One more thing, stop judging yourself. Like stop! Like now! Loving you is the most important thing ever. Loving and accepting yourself, leads to a life full of freedom. We are probably most quick to judge ourselves more than any other human being on the planet, just no one ever sees or hears it. It’s all stuck in our head. We start believing those lies and head down an ugly, dark path. Not Today Satan! Today, let’s step out in truth. We are rock stars! Everyone around us is a rock star or at least cool enough to be in our band.
Start seeing yourself and others through the eyes of Jesus. I know it sounds cheesy, but seriously, He sees nothing wrong, no flaws, or saggy skin, or bags under our eyes. He finds the good. He hangs out there and so should we.
“Do not judge others. We are all fighting different kinds of battles.’